Reliable surrogate mother - what is she like?

Where to find a decent surrogate mother

Entrusting the life and health of your child to a stranger can be very difficult. That is why it is so important to find a surrogate mother in whom you are confident. In addition to objective criteria, there are other important nuances that need to be paid attention to. We tell you what personal qualities a woman must have in order to successfully complete the program.

Why women become surrogate mothers

Solution becoming a surrogate mother is very personal. Each surrogate mother has her own motivation, but there are several common reasons why women enter into a surrogacy program:

To help people who cannot have children. Many surrogate mothers have heard or read stories of couples unsuccessfully trying to conceive a child, and realized that they have the power to give someone the joy of parenthood.
Get compensation. A potential surrogate mother must be in a stable financial situation even before joining the program, since surrogacy is not a quick way to make money, but a long and difficult process that requires responsibility and patience. However, a decent fee is often an important factor in applying, because a good salary can help a woman achieve her dream or help her own family.
Go through pregnancy again. Some women remember the process of carrying a baby and giving birth with joy and warmth, so they are ready to go through this journey again, without taking on the additional responsibility of raising another child. We need to know that the woman has had only positive experiences with previous pregnancies in order to have the greatest chance of successfully completing the program.
Get a feeling of deep personal satisfaction. Not every woman can become a surrogate mother, and therefore those who decide to do this experience great joy and pride - after all, they once and for all change the life of an entire family and bring into the world a person they will love.

Character traits of a surrogate mother that contribute to the successful implementation of the program

Being a surrogate mother is not an easy task, because she is responsible for the life of someone else’s child for nine months. Of course, the surrogate mother should not have health problems, bad habits or criminal records. However, something else that is no less important is the woman’s personal qualities that will help her walk this path and cope with possible difficulties. What character traits are very important for any surrogate mother?

Responsibility

The surrogate mother understands the importance of the surrogacy agreement motherhood and clearly understands the responsibilities that she assumes by agreeing to bear a child. She should take care of herself throughout her pregnancy, follow her doctor's recommendations, take vitamins, get plenty of rest, eat right, and do light exercise if necessary. The surrogate mother understands that she will have to reconsider her work schedule in order to visit specialists and undergo the embryo implantation procedure. Out-of-town women will have to move to be closer to quality medical services and the agency's office. All these aspects of the program require a conscious and responsible attitude to the matter.

Openness

It is very important for future parents be aware of all the details of the surrogate mother’s pregnancy and know how their baby is developing. To avoid worries and excessive attention from parents, each surrogate mother has a curator, who takes over communication with the couple - sends medical test results, photographs and videos. However, the woman needs to regularly communicate with the perinatal care provider and inform her about her physical and psychological well-being.

Honesty

Surrogacy is a coordinated work of the agency, the couple, and, of course, the surrogate mother, where openness and sincerity are very important. Future parents trust the surrogate mother of the child at the most vulnerable stage of development, so they expect that the surrogate mother will take all vitamins and medications, not miss doctor’s appointments and avoid stress. In this regard, honesty and decency are the main qualities that a surrogate mother should have.

Optimism

A positive attitude is of utmost importance throughout the surrogacy program. Optimism helps to significantly facilitate the process of pregnancy and childbirth, establish a warm and friendly atmosphere with future parents, doctors and the agency team, and remember this period as an amazing stage of your life.

Balance

Selection, medical examinations, paperwork, preparation for pregnancy, carrying the baby itself and childbirth - it is worth preparing for the fact that this path will not be quick and will require calmness from the surrogate mother and patience. Waiting can be tiring, but the staff at ISA Fertility will do everything to make sure you don’t worry and will tell you in detail about all stages of the program.

Altruism

Of course, surrogate mothers deserve fair compensation for their work, but fees cannot be the only reason entry into the program. Helping someone become parents is a truly special act that only generous and altruistic women can do. They know that carrying and giving birth to a baby is not so easy, but they are still ready to give strangers the biggest gift of their lives.

Where to find a worthy surrogate mother

The best The way to find a surrogate mother is not to look for her at all yourself. Instead, consider turning to a reputable surrogacy agency, which will do all the hard work for the parents, allowing the couple to focus on what is important - waiting for the baby. A qualified agency has a database of pre-selected potential surrogate mothers who are completely physically and mentally healthy, have passed medical screenings and meet an extensive list of internal criteria of the agency itself. An experienced team with care and respect for your family will select the ideal surrogate mother for you.

Why it is dangerous to look for a surrogate mother on your own

The couple will not have access to extensive resources that are provided by agencies, including multi-stage selection and thorough examination of candidates. A reliable agency strictly follows the law, so you can safely trust its employees to resolve legal issues and prepare documents, taking into account the interests of all parties. In independent surrogacy, it will be more difficult for parents to ensure the reliability and integrity of the surrogate mother - there is always a risk that the woman will not be suitable for this role either from a medical or psychological point of view, not to mention possible fraud or blackmail.
All arrangements, including drawing up and maintaining a contract, arranging trips to doctors, purchasing medications and paying for childbirth, fall on the shoulders of the parents, which can become an additional stressor in an already emotional process.

The surrogacy agency will not only guide potential parents through every stage of the program and take care of every detail, but also provide them with psychological comfort and peace of mind.

To learn more about the character traits ISA Fertility looks for in candidates, or to begin your surrogacy journey, contact us. Our team will help you find a responsible, positive and honest surrogate mother who can make your dream of having a baby come true.